Then fall for each other.
Psychologist Arthur Aron's research found that answering progressively personal questions with someone — and really listening — reliably creates closeness. All 36 original questions, in three sets: light, then deeper, then the real ones.
Take turns answering each one. There are no right answers.
Psychologist Arthur Aron's research found that mutual vulnerability — sharing progressively personal things with someone — reliably produces feelings of closeness. The questions are designed to escalate gradually, so each answer builds trust for the next. It works not just for strangers, but for couples who've stopped truly asking about each other.