Career Confusion Is Rarely Just About the Job

Career counselling — online across India and in-person in Gurgaon

When the career question becomes something bigger

On paper, you have a good job. Or a prestigious one. Or one that pays well. But something isn't right, and you can't quite name what it is. Maybe you dread Monday mornings in a way that doesn't make sense given how many people would want your position. Maybe you've been offered a promotion and feel nothing — or dread — instead of excitement. Maybe you wake up at 3am wondering if this is really what you want to be doing with your life.

Career anxiety in India has a particular flavour. There's the weight of everything your parents sacrificed, the comparison to peers who seem to have it figured out, the fear that choosing something you actually care about is somehow selfish or naive. The result is often a paralysis that looks like laziness from the outside but feels like drowning from the inside.

What I've found working with clients across Gurgaon and online is that career confusion is almost always identity confusion. Once you get clear on who you are and what you actually value — not what you've been told to value — the career question becomes much more answerable. Sometimes the answer is to stay and change something internal. Sometimes it genuinely requires an external change. Therapy helps you tell the difference.

What career counselling with a therapist does

Below the surface

Career coaching gives you a plan. Therapy helps you understand why you can't execute the plan — the anxiety, the self-sabotage, the beliefs about what you deserve or what's possible for someone like you.

Separating your voice from the noise

Most people struggling with career decisions have at least three voices in their head: a parent, a peer, a version of themselves they thought they'd be. Therapy helps you figure out which one is actually yours.

Making the decision you can live with

Not the perfect decision. Not the one that will make everyone happy. The one that's honest about what you need, what you value, and what you're willing to risk. That decision is liveable in a way that avoidance never is.

What Ruchi works with

Career concerns come in many shapes. These are some of the most common presentations.

Career confusion & indecision Imposter syndrome Work anxiety Job dissatisfaction Career change Mid-career pivot Family vs. passion conflict Post-MBA pressure Workplace conflict Work-life balance NRI career transition Founder & entrepreneur stress Job loss & identity

What the process looks like

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First — understanding what's actually going on

Career anxiety rarely starts with the career. Ruchi will spend time understanding your full picture — not just the job situation, but the context it's sitting in. What's the pressure coming from? What are you afraid of? What would you do if you weren't afraid?

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Clarifying what you actually want

Most career confusion comes from not knowing what you want — or knowing it and not believing it's possible or allowed. Therapy creates the conditions to figure that out without the noise of other people's expectations. This is slower and more useful than any aptitude test.

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Moving forward — with less fear

Once you're clear, the obstacles become more navigable. Not gone — but nameable, and therefore workable. Most clients working on career questions reach meaningful clarity within 6–10 sessions, though some continue longer for the ongoing support of navigating a transition.

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Pricing

Sessions are 50 minutes. No hidden fees, no intake charges.

Career Counselling with Ruchi Makkar

Single session — ₹2,000
Monthly package (4 sessions) — ₹7,000

Sliding scale fees available. If cost is a barrier, please say so — no one who genuinely needs support should be turned away.

Common questions

Is career counselling just about choosing the right job or stream?

Career counselling in the therapeutic sense is different from aptitude testing or coaching. It's about the psychological relationship you have with your work — why certain decisions feel impossible, what fear or identity questions are underneath the confusion, what you've been told your career should look like versus what you actually want. Less about "what job should I do" and more about "why is this so hard to figure out, and what's that telling me?"

How is this different from seeing a career coach?

A career coach works on strategy, goals, and next steps. Therapy goes deeper — into the anxiety underneath the indecision, the family expectations that are in the room even when no one's named them, the fear of failure that makes it hard to commit. If you've had coaching and still feel stuck, it's often because the stuckness isn't strategic — it's psychological.

I'm successful by external measures but deeply unhappy at work. Is therapy for me?

Absolutely — and this is one of the most common presentations. The person who has achieved what they set out to achieve and is surprised to find it doesn't feel the way they expected. Unpacking why that is — what you were actually looking for, what values got buried, what a more honest version of your working life might look like — is exactly what career therapy does.

Can therapy help with imposter syndrome?

Yes. Imposter syndrome — the persistent sense that you don't deserve your achievements and will eventually be found out — is extremely common among high achievers in India, particularly in competitive industries and among first-generation professionals. It tends to get worse with success, not better. Therapy helps you understand where it came from and break the cycle of self-doubt that keeps it running.

My parents want one career and I want something different. Can therapy help?

This is one of the most culturally specific and emotionally loaded career questions in India — and yes, exactly the kind of thing Ruchi works with. The conflict between family expectation and personal direction is rarely just about the career. It's about identity, about love, about fear of disappointing the people who gave you everything. Therapy helps you get clear on what you actually want, and navigate the family dimension with both honesty and care.

About the author
Ruchi Makkar is a psychotherapist based in DLF Phase 4, Gurgaon. She works with individuals, couples, and families — online across India and in-person in Gurugram — in Hindi and English. Book a session →

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